Jan 26, 2016

Ramblings. Wedding. Crazy.

            So here’s the thing: typically when I actually take the time to blog, I focus on my travels and adventures, and basically nothing else. Hence the title, “Holmes Away from Home.” But one of the things I hate most in life is playing catch-up. Playing catch-up in my journal, playing catch-up blogging, and quite honestly, playing catch-up with friends. That may sound horrible to say, but I’m typically the first to admit that at times I have horrible thoughts and am kind of a terrible person. In a very relative, only with the things I say and think sort of way. Dang it. Now I feel the need to explain. Which is stupid, because typically the people who actually read my blog know me well enough to know exactly what I’m talking about. But hopefully, over time, as I try to just write freely, other readers might come to understand what I mean. But anyways, I digress. I understand that sometimes it’s necessary to give back stories for things to understand the context of what’s going on in someone’s life, but typically, I really just care about the here and now, other than major life events of course. And I don’t think that’s a bad thing. And I don’t feel the need to defend myself. So I’m going to stop.
            And now that I’ve written more than my professor-required 200 words per blog post, I’m just going to say that my life has been absolutely losing-my-mind insane for the last... Month and a half. Really it’s been longer than that, but I’m just focusing on the post-Dominican Republic part of my life. P.S. I lived in the Dominican Republic last fall doing ILP again. But all it takes is a quick look at my Facebook or Instagram pages to see that. Once you get past all of the lovey-dovey, Christmas, and wedding posts of course.
            Basically, weddings take over your entire life and make you go crazy. Now, it’s possible that that’s not the case for everyone, but I don’t know that I’d believe anyone that said that without the support of at least 17 witnesses. The list of things to do is literally never-ending. Once you get through the “essentials” and the “it’s all I’ve ever dreamed of” lists, you go to the “would be really nice” things and then to the “non-essential, but would make it so much cuter” list.
            Here’s the biggest thing I learned while planning my wedding: literally everyone will drive you insane at some point. Your fiancĂ©. Your parents. Your best friends. Your in-laws. Yourself. Everyone. Maybe with like, one or two exceptions. And I would bet good money that those exceptions are hardly, if at all, involved in the wedding planning. That’s why they’re your saving graces. That’s also why they don’t understand why you’re going crazy.

One of the best things in the world for me was simply having a significant amount of time every day to be all by myself, doing whatever I wanted to do. More often than not, that meant multi-tasking by doing something productive for the wedding and watching Gilmore Girls, but I did what was necessary. And after the wedding is all over, you have that lingering stress effect that I’ve only ever experienced in 2 circumstances: finals/midterms, and really busy times at work. You know what I’m talking about. It’s that thing where it’s all over and there’s nothing you can do, but you still feel stressing. And you randomly catch yourself having a panic attack, trying to figure out what you forgot and what you need to do. Don’t worry. It’s normal. At least normal for me. So take that however you’d like.

Also, P.S. I can’t promise that all or even any of these blog posts will be meaningful in any way.  You can pretty much expect them to be my ramblings. And if something else comes along, you’ll be pleasantly surprised. You’re welcome.


Writing is a weird thing, but also so incredibly cool when you really think about it. Everything that is written came from someone’s thoughts. Even if it’s the simplest thing. For example, a description for an IKEA mirror that I’m looking at. “Full-length mirror. Can be hung horizontally or vertically. Safety film reduces damage if glass is broken.” That may be one of the most boring things I’ve ever read, but somewhere at sometime, some probably Swedish person wrote that description. That’s their job. The product description-writer. Some thoughts and writings obviously aren’t life- or world-changing. Some aren’t really that important at all. But they’re all connected to some person, somewhere, with some life. And I think that’s pretty cool to think about.

            My favorite writing exercise I’ve ever done was for a writing class I took at BYU-Idaho. Writing about it now is slightly ironic to me, since I’m writing this blog post for another class at BYU. Simple, kind of stupid, but I love funny little things like that in life. The exercise was to simply write whatever thoughts you had. When you went off on a tangent, you wrote it. Whatever came to your brain came to the paper. It was really obvious who had done the exercise correctly and who hadn’t. There’s something so beautiful about freely flowing thoughts. Hearing other people’s thoughts, without filter, really gives you a lot of perspective into who that person is, how they function, and what they care about- even if it’s something seemingly unimportant like a TV show. That exercise completely changed the way I wrote. It was so liberating to write without restrictions, without guidelines, heck, even without proper grammar! I really try my best to convey the tone and expression in my thoughts when I write now. I feel like it makes my writing unique. It makes it me. And I love that. More than anything, I’m really excited to have a reason to start writing like that again. So that’s something for my wild fan base to look forward to.